Ayurveda has an easily understandable explanation and treatment for common sexual problems in men (and women). And I as a healer by intimacy and eternal student and practitioner of Ayurveda want to let men know about them. I will do so in the alphabetical order of the most common sexual problems that men have in the western countries.
Erectile dysfunction
How Ayurveda explains erectile dysfunction has its own article since so many men unfortunately have it. Hence I won't repeat myself here as I value your time. A click on the link to the article will take less time than reading more paragraphs here.
Impotence
Impotence, a man's inability to have or maintain erection, can have several causes. The causes can be emotional, stress, and physical. For example, when a man has high cholesterol, fat and plaque can deposit themselves on the vessels that lead to the penis. The deposits will block the flow of blood to the penis and result in a "penis attack" in which the blood supply is insufficient to erect the penis or keep it erect. Exactly the same principle as with heart attack.
One remedy is to massage the pubic area (lower part of the abdomen) and the root of the penis with a few drops of mahanarayana oil. This will improve circulation and may be enough to cure the problem. Or one can apply either bala oil or ashwagandha oil directly to the penis. Massaging above the prostate gland [midway between the scrotum and anus] with either mahanarayana oil or bala oil or ashwagandha oil can also benefit. If you do not have the oils, you can use plain ghee. Massage with light pressure firstly in circles and then in strokes from the anus to the base of the penis. This will improve circulation. Another remedy is to drink a cup of warm milk with a pinch of saffron every night. This increases the sperm count. And finally, beneficial yoga postures are the rooster, elevated lotus, vajrasana, chakra asana, and the bow pose.
Low libido
Libido is the desire for pleasure and satisfaction. According to Ayurveda this desire comes from the male and female reproductive tissues. When there is weakness in the reproductive tissues, libido is low. Many people have low libido at middle or even earlier age. Emotional factors (which influence people at every age) and high stress (prevalent at young and middle age) are additional primary causes of low libido. It can be effectively treated with Ayurvedic programs and remedies that reduce stress and strengthen the reproductive system. Emotional factors can effectively be treated with coaching. But as always in Ayurveda, the question what is the total context of the situation arises. On one hand low libido can be a problem. On the other hand it can be a healthy response of the body preventing excessive loss of the health-giving vital fluid. From this perspective the body responds intelligently.
Intentional celibacy is different from low libido. There is immense sexual power/energy in celibacy, but a person consciously controls that energy and transforms it into supreme bliss or intelligence. In low libido the energy simply lacks. So here are several ways to increase it.
Gently press the glans penis (the head or top of the penis) with the top of the index finger. Press on the groove about one inch behind the tip of the penis. There is a marma point at the centre of the groove. Gently press for a minute or two, then release. This technique also helps to remediate premature ejaculation. You can also gently massage the glans penis with either bala oil, shatavari ghee, castor oil, or brahmi ghee. Taking the ashwagandha herb is effective internally. Add 1 teaspoon of ashwagandha powder and half a teaspoon of vidari to a cup of warm milk and drink it at night. It is better to leave the herbs in the milk for a few minutes than to mix them with the milk and drink immediately.
Food remedies for low libido
Soak 10 raw (not roasted) almonds in water overnight. In the morning peel the skins and eat with breakfast. Or soack 10 raw almonds in water overnight. In the morning peel the skins and put them into a blender with 1 cup of warm milk, 1 teaspoon of plain ghee, 1 teaspoon of natural sugar, a pinch of nutmeg, and a pinch of saffron. Thoroughly blend and enjoy this yummy drink. Or soak 10 fresh dates in a quart jar of plain ghee and add 1 teaspoon of finely chopped fresh ginger, an eighth of a teaspoon of cardamom powder, and a pinch of saffron. Cover the jar and keep it in a warm place for at least 2 weeks. Then eat 1 date a day in the early morning. These dates are one more wonderfully tasting gift of Ayurveda for low libido and sexual problems.
Another delicious remedy is to remove the skins and cores of 5 raw apples, blend or mash them into a pulp, thoroughly mix, add homey to taste, an eighth of a teaspoon of cardamom powder, a pinch of nutmeg, a pinch of saffron, and 10 drops of rosewater. Enjoy half a cup of this delicious dessert at least an hour after meals. Do not eat yogurt, milk, and fish at least 4 hours before and after eating this dessert.
Adding more garlic and onions to the diet also helps. However, these foods can be dulling to the mind which is why they're not good for meditation. So if that is your concern, add only very little of them if you don't eat them at all. And don't add more if you eat them. If meditation is not your concern, you can also mix 1 cup of milk, quarter of a cup of warm water, and 1 clove of chopped garlic. Gently boil until you have only 1 cup of liquid, and drink at bedtime. Or take 1 tablespoon of onion juice mixed with 1 teaspoon of fresh ginger twice a day.
Premature ejaculation
...is caused primarily by aggravation of vata - the biological air = that which moves everything in the body. I explained vata in the article on Ayurveda and why your partner doesn't want sex when you do. The quickness and heightened sensitivity to touch of vata predispose for faster ejaculation. A person of vata constitution cannot sustain sex for long in general. When vata is unduly increased in a person with a vata constitution, premature ejaculation is common and not surprising. Nervousness, fear or anxiety may also be involved. But this is also largely due to aggravated vata. Thus the main avenue of treatment is to balance vata.
Another possible cause is cholesterol and the related high triglycerides. Cholesterol deposits itself in the blood vessels of the penis and the whole reproductive system. The blood vessels become thick and narrow. The supply of blood to the penis and prostate is then insufficient. That causes lack of sphincter control and leads to ejaculating prematurely. But even this condition can be cured. with simple natural remedies and discipline over time.
Remedies
One remedy is to add 5-10 drops of mustard oil to 1 ounce of sesame oil and gently massage the penis. This pleasant treatment will dilate the blood vessels and thus improve the circulation of blood to the penis. IMPORTANT: do this massage at least 1 hour before intercourse and thoroughly wash the penis before intercourse. Otherwise the heating oils could burn your partner's delicate skin. You can also use castor oil which improves the tone of the sphincter muscles. Brahmi ghee, shatavari ghee, or ashwagandha ghee are good alternatives for massaging the pubic bone and glans penis before making love.
Another remedy is to practise stimulating the penis up to ejaculation, but not ejaculating. Then sit up straight (in a lotus posture if you can), pull (or suck) the anus inward, and release in a series of 10 tense-release movements. This will train the penis to be ready but not to ejaculate. You must practise with great care to succeed at this. Do this exercise 1 to 2 hours before making love. The third way to control ejaculation is contracting the muscles of the buttocks. The fourth way is to gently press the marma point at the centre of the underside on the glans penis, suck the anus inward at the same time, hold for 5 seconds, and release. Repeat 10 times. This improves the blood supply to the penis and helps to maintain erection. Do this about 1 hour before sex.
What to eat?
As premature ejaculation is a vata disorder, men with this problem should eat cooked warm oily liquid foods and few raw, cold, rough foods. Examples of raw cold rough foods are salads of raw vegetables, nuts, seeds, cereals, chips [crisps], and cold drinks. Examples of warm cooked oily foods are mashed potatoes, cooked rice dishes, curries, cooked stews, cooked apples, cooked vegetables, soups. Men who have high cholesterol should eat foods that maintain cholesterol low. Diabetic men should eat little refined sugar or ideally completely avoid it.
Where to get the oils and medicated ghees?
Mahanarayana oil, bala oil, and ashwagandha oil are not commonly sold at health stores and pharmacies in the west. Mustard oil is more commonly sold, but its quantity doesn't guarantee its high quality. One must therefore buy them online carefully. Carefully because the herbal market is in higher and higher demand and therefore more and more adulterated. I definitely don't recommend buying these oils on Amazon and from similar retailers as there is the highest chance of buying adulterated products. Every seller promises his products to be organic and natural, but that can mean anything in today's world of loose regulations, inaccurate language, and legal workarounds. The surest sources of clean products are Ayurvedic clinics and companies that produce these oils and other herbal medicines directly for Ayurvedic clinics. Google an Ayurvedic clinic near a location convenient to you.
If you want to get these oils to an address in the UK, you will get clean products from the Ayurvedic clinic. If you want to have these oils delivered to an address in the USA, you will get clean ones from Banyan Botanicals.
Plain ghee is easy, cheaper, and better to make at home than to buy in stores. Making it takes half an hour of clear time. Ghee from stores can contain additives for prolonging its life - and maximising the sellers' profits. Those additives are by the way absolutely not necessary as ghee can be stored in cupboards for years and actually improves medicinal properties with age! But a working professional man will most likely not have half an hour to make it. So if you must recourse to buying ghee, buy one with as few additives as you can get. Making medicated ghee at home is a long process, so it is better to buy it with care. The Ayurvedic herbs mentioned in this article are also best to buy from Ayurvedic clinics.
Ayurveda is an excellent and pleasant cure for sexual problems
...if one treats himself according to its principles with discipline and gives it time. Time heals, discipline makes miracles. The treatments described in this article may seem laborious, but are not more laborious than remembering to take several allopathic medicines. While allopathy manages disease, Ayurveda cures disease. As long as the toxins in the body that cause disease or vata, pitta, or kapha are aggravated, allopathic medicines will only make the problem worse. Ayurvedic treatments applied with discipline will clean the toxins and balance vata, pitta, and kapha over time. And that is how Ayurveda cures sexual problems in men determined to heal them by natural means.
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